WHAT YOU PROBABLY DIDN'T KNOW ABOUT SELF-ESTEEM (Episode One)

You probably have been told how powerful you are to 'wrought' mighty works but at some points you doubted because your reality seem to be different.

They've told you not to allow fear cripple you but it look like it is eating you deep by the day; even the tiniest bit of things seem so unattainable and you are beginning to question 'your identity'.

Well, I have decided to help you out on understanding your true identity and who you are, because settling this would as well settle the question on self-esteem and confidence.

You can see more about that here.

Now, let's get through to the business of the day, helping you clear the doubt if truly what you possess is self-esteem or is it just pride.

WHAT SELF-ESTEEM IS AND WHAT IT IS NOT.

Have you ever felt less of yourself? 

Or perhaps you feel so full of yourself that you consider other people lesser than you are?

What does your subconscious tell you about who you are or who you're not?

Do you feel insecure or confident about your identity?

These and more are questions that point us to our position on the subject of self-esteem.

The reality of life is that every person perceives themselves in a certain way, depending on their thoughts, personality, or experiences. 

This in turn determines the value we each place on ourselves as humans.

What exactly is self-esteem?

Self-esteem which is also referred to as self-worth or self-respect is simply how we value or perceive ourselves or how much we like and appreciate ourselves irrespective of circumstances, which is often based on our opinions and beliefs about ourselves.

That is, we may feel either terrible or satisfied in who we are, depending on the level of value we place on ourselves. 

So we won't be wrong to say self-esteem is a favorable or unfavorable attitude towards oneself, which can sometimes feel difficult to change.

This groups self-esteem into 2 categories viz;

Low self-esteem and

High self-esteem

Our disposition on either category may be influenced by certain factors such as ;

• Personal Identity or individuality

• The feeling of being adequately qualified

• Belief in one's self or abilities

• Feeling of security

• Sense of belonging

• Age

• Health

• Experiences of life, and

• Social/Environmental Circumstances.

All of these together determine the state of an individual's self-esteem.

              

Self-esteem is however seen to be lowest during childhood, but increases during adolescence and likewise adulthood where it eventually stabilizes. 

Having low or high self-esteem is instrumental to how a person handles certain issues. It can affect vital matters such as, 

• Your ability to show kindness towards yourself

• Being able to move past mistakes without hanging the cloak of blame about your neck

• Recognizing your areas of strength and capabilities

• Trying new or difficult things

• Believing you're important, good enough, and deserve to be happy.

• Being decisive and able to put yourself forward

• Placing value on yourself as a person and taking the needed time to look after yourself.

In all, it is necessary to note that self-esteem is not rigid. It is pliable and capable of being measured. 

Meaning it can be tested and improved upon, such that an unfavorable/low self-esteem or excessively high self-esteem can be modified to create the needed balance.

This is to say, anyone including you can vastly improve the quality of your life by simply altering the way you see yourself, in the light of positivity, and coming to the realization that you're awesome and deserve to be loved.

Doing this will require changing your thought pattern, which may look impossible. Nonetheless, it is achievable and worth every sacrifice.

This points us to the fact that true self-esteem is not dependent on extrinsic validation. It is rather a function of the quality of thoughts our minds harbor.

Simply put, self-esteem is who you think you are and not who someone or society says you are.

This isn't the end to what you should know about this topic, check back for the next episode soonest.

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